Has your life been affected by compulsive sexual behaviour?*

 

If so COSA can help.

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 What is COSA?

  • A programme for anyone whose life has been affected by compulsive sexual behaviour. * This can include, but is not limited to: being married or in a relationship with a sex addict, being an adult child of a sex addict, being affected by someone else’s pornography addiction, victims of sexual abuse and co-sex addicts. Regardless of how you’ve been affected by compulsive sexual behaviour, COSA welcomes you.
  • An anonymous Twelve Step recovery programme based on AA’s Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions and Twelve Concepts.
  • We offer support and hope
  • Meetings give us a safe place to listen to the experience, strength and hope of others and to have a safe space to share openly and honestly
  • Everything that is said in meetings and between members is confidential
  • By working the Twelve Steps we gain a new perspective on ourselves and on our lives
  • >>> The COSA Recovery Book is now LAUNCHED and available for purchase on Amazon: Kindle edition  Paperback edition <<<
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Find a COSA Meeting

At meetings we give and receive support, learn that we are not alone, work the steps, and share experience, strength and hope in a safe and anonymous environment.

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The Twelve
Steps

Step 1

We admitted we were powerless over compulsive sexual behaviour — that our lives had become unmanageable.

Step 2

Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Step 3

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.

Step 4

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Step 5

Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step 6

Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Step7

Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

Step 8

Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Step 9

Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step 10

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Step 11

Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.

Step 12

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.

The Twelve Traditions

Tradition 1

Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon COSA unity.

Tradition 2

For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as expressed in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

Tradition 3

The only requirement for COSA membership is that our lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior. The members may call themselves a COSA group, provided that, as a group, they have no other affiliation.

Tradition 4

Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or COSA as a whole.

Tradition 5

Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to those who still suffer. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps ourselves.

Tradition 6

A COSA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the COSA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.

Tradition 7

Every COSA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

Tradition 8

COSA should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

Tradition 9

COSA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.

Tradition 10

COSA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the COSA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.

Tradition 11

Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television, and other public media of communication ... Read In Full

Tradition 12

Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

The Twelve Concepts of Service

Concept 1

Final responsibility and ultimate authority for COSA world services should always reside in the collective conscience of our whole Fellowship.

Concept 2

The Annual Meeting of Delegates and the ISO Board of COSA has become, for nearly every practical purpose, the active voice and the effective conscience of our whole Society in its world affairs.

Concept 3

To insure effective leadership, we should endow each element of COSA, “the Annual Meeting”, the International Service Organization of COSA and its service committees, contracted worker, and executives with a traditional “Right of Decision”.

Concept 4

At all responsible levels, we ought to maintain a traditional “Right of Participation” allowing a voting representation in reasonable proportion to the responsibility that each must discharge.

Step 5

Throughout our structure, a traditional “Right of Appeal” ought to prevail, so that minority opinion will be heard and personal grievances receive careful consideration.

Concept 6

The Annual Meeting of the board and delegates recognizes that the chief initiative and active responsibility in most International service matters should be exercised by the trustee members of the Annual Meeting, acting as the International Service Organization.

Step7

The Charter and Bylaws of the International Service Board are legal instruments, empowering the trustees to manage and conduct international service affairs. The Annual Meeting Charter is not a legal document; it relies upon tradition and the COSA purse for final effectiveness.

Concept 8

The trustees are the principal planners and administrators of overall policy and finance. They have custodial oversight of the separately incorporated and constantly active services, exercising this through their ability to elect all the directors of these entities.

Concept 9

Good service leadership at all levels is indispensable for our future functioning and safety. Primary world service leadership, once exercised by the founders, must necessarily be assumed by the trustees.

Concept 10

Every service responsibility should be matched by an equal service authority, with the scope of such authority well defined.

Concept 11

The trustees should always have the best possible committees, corporate service directors, executives, staffs, and consultants. Composition, qualifications, induction procedures, and rights and duties will always be matters of serious concern.

Concept 12

The Annual Meeting shall observe the spirit of COSA tradition, taking care that it never becomes the seat of perilous wealth or power; that sufficient operating funds and reserve be its prudent financial principle; Read In Full

Is COSA For Me?

If your life has been affected by compulsive sexual behaviour then you can find hope in COSA.

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COSA Stories

COSA members share their experience, strength and hope.
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Newcomers Welcome Pack

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COSA Newsboard

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Being Of Service

From helping out at meetings to becoming a sponsor, there are many ways to help out and find value and reward in giving back.
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Contributions are to be made by COSA members only
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* The Twelve Steps, Traditions and Concepts of Alcoholics Anonymous have been reprinted and adapted with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. (“AAWS”). Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps, Traditions and Concepts does not mean that Alcoholics Anonymous is affiliated with this programme. A.A. is a programme of recovery from alcoholism only – use of A.A.’s Steps, Traditions and Concepts or an adapted version in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after A.A., but which address other problems, or use in any other non-A.A. context, does not imply otherwise.

 

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